Text messaging is one of the most powerful ways to flirt and build a relationship with a woman known to man. Unfortunately, many men are at a loss for how to properly leverage this technology and sweep a woman off her feel with the use of a cell phone and an unlimited text messaging plan. Today all of that changes….

To begin with, text messaging is the perfect way to flirt with a woman thanks to the latency in this technology. Since no message is sent until you type it out and hit the “send” button you have time to think and edit your message to your heart’s content. Perhaps you truly lack texting skills… do you have a friend with skills? Have him sit beside you and help you come up with some witty banter to set her heart ablaze and her head spinning.

A word of warning though: If the woman you are texting has a couple of guys that she is interested in who are texting her at the same time competition can be fierce. Put your game face on and get your skills sharpened or you will definitely be left behind while your princess rides off into the sunset with some other guy. With the help of this advice though, you should be well on your way to outperforming even the slickest of pickup artists.

Be Witty – It will be necessary for you to be witty and clever in your text messages. Be original and avoid all the lines that most guys use like “hey sexy” or “hey baby” or “hey beautiful”. Most girls have heard all of these a hundred times before. Think outside the box. Be goofy and make her literally laugh out loud. Off the top of my head, something random that might get a laugh would be, “my dog wants to know what you’re wearing…” Relax and have fun. Enjoy the detached nature of text messaging and be yourself.

Of course, once you have built a little rapport and gotten to the “pet name stage” of the relationship it is not only ok but encouraged that you send her regular text messages saying “hey sexy” or “hey beautiful”. Remember, text messaging is easy and quick so there really is no reason not to touch base with her at least in the morning and night once she has come to expect your messages. Failure to do so is one of the biggest that women have concerning a man’s text messaging prowess and shows a lack of attentiveness.

Put Her On The Hook – Text messages that can be answered with a simple yes or no simply will not suffice if you are trying to use text messages to flirt or build a connection. Before you send your text ask yourself if the question can be answered simply yes or no and if so reword your question so she will have to think a little bit more. Chances are that if she has a couple of guys that she is interested in the one that captivates her will be the one that she winds up spending time texting. If you are the one sending text messages that only require a yes or no answer she will probably wind up not answering and will tell you that her battery died, she fell asleep or she left her phone in the car or purse.

An example of a poor text message might be “I had a great time tonight did you?” First, this is very needy but also it can be answered with a simple “yes”. A clever way of rewording this would be “I had such a good time tonight I want to hit replay and do it all over again!” Of if the food was bad at dinner, “The appetizer was good but I think the urinal cakes in that place were better than the entrée.” And then you have an opening to ask for another date with “next time YOU get to pick the restaurant…and pay.”

Follow The Flow – Try to mirror or follow the flow of the conversation when you are texting. If she uses a lot of texting shorthand like “ur” for “you are” you can follow suit. If she uses proper English you should do likewise. Internet shorthand is falling out of style and many intelligent women will judge you by your spelling and grammar if you find that she doesn’t use internet shorthand. Knowing the difference between “there, their and they’re” is a common test.

Frequency – If she stops texting you or seems short in her responses during a conversation it could be that she is busy. Try not to be an annoyance. End the conversation on a positive note and tell her that you think she’s the coolest or that she’s the sweetest and that you have to run and that you’ll talk with her soon. Forcing a text conversation can make you appear needy and a bit stalkerish.

Work on your text messaging skills. In this day and age it is a part of dating and relationships that you simply can’t avoid. Burying your head in the sand and saying that texting isn’t for you simply won’t cut it. Once you get the hang of it you will find that it’s actually a very easy way to communicate with beautiful women while taking away all the things that used to make you nervous about talking on the phone in the beginning. Try using some of these tips and see how easy it really can be.

Sexting is the talk of the town these days. Daytime talk shows broke this latest fad not too long ago and sexting was “outed” and suddenly a part of our culture along with “friending”, “tweets” and “retweets”.

Some of you might have already been sexting without even knowing that it actually had a name. Flirty little text messages sent to your boyfriend or husband were the perfect little reminder of what he had waiting for him at the end of the day. Maybe things would get a little more heated late at night if you were apart. And, of course, a few short, well worded text message could easily keep that guy you were interested in up all night if you were really good.

Either way, sexting has probably been going on for as long as there has been text messaging. SMS messaging, as it is formally called, is the perfect way to flirt with your boyfriend, husband or guy you’re interested in and drive him wild with passion for you.

Like any form of flirting though, less is more. No different than any other form of seduction or flirting, the woman who has the ability to leave a little bit to the imagination will always get a better response from her man than the one that just gets down and dirty right away. Subtle innuendos that lead him on with perhaps a spicy little tidbit thrown in when he’s least expecting it will get him right where you want him.

No different than showing just a little bit of leg or cleavage, a well worded text message can seduce a man as well as a pushup bra and a miniskirt any day. It’s all about teasing. It’s all about building up the emotional tension… and then shocking him, setting that hook and making him yours.

With the proper setup, buildup of tension and follow through you can pretty much guarantee that he isn’t going to be thinking of much more other than you for quite a while. Of course, each technique and series of message has to match the depth of your relationship and your desired outcome.

For instance, let’s say you have been in a relationship for a while. Maybe you’re married or living together. Things have gotten a little “routine” and you’re hoping to spice up your love life. You have heard about this “sexting” thing so you want to give it a try. This one is sure to not only make him come running home but chances are he will save this text message for years to come.

Wait until he is at work or, even better, in a meeting. Send him a text message telling him that you were just thinking about something. Once he responds back tell him that he has to promise not to think poorly of you. When he agrees tell him that you have a question for him. When he asks what ask him if he would be shocked if you told him that you wanted to taste him right now.

Now run outside, get the kids bikes out of the driveway and unlock the door because there’s a pretty good chance that he is going to leave work and come to wherever you are.

You see, it’s not always about graphic words and descriptions of actions that will move a man to distraction. It’s the gentle nuances of true seduction that will drive a man wild. It’s the hint of sexuality and the subtle flirty air that will make him yours.

With a little planning and some forethought you can turn your cell phone into a homing beacon for your man. A couple well thought out text messages and a desire to become the only woman he thinks about and you can move your man from several time zones away with the power of sexting.

If you’re thinking that seduction or seducing your wife or girlfriend is all about learning a bunch of slick lines or mind control tricks, I am sorry to disappoint you. True seduction is about so much more and, when done correctly, is more powerful than any cheesy line that you might think will turn a woman into putty in your hands.

Actually, pickup lines and canned responses can kill the mood and turn a woman off quicker than green grass through a goose. Most women can instinctively detect insincerity and many have heard the same lame lines since they were in puberty. This is why you should learn tried and true seduction techniques and actively practice perfecting the art of seduction from the ground up. So let’s get started!

Women are different than men. This might go without saying but it bears repeating. Where a man might find it very easy to become stimulated or turned on in a matter of a few minutes, a woman typically needs more time to “warm up”. Much like your car on a cold winter morning, if things seemed rushed and consideration of this fact isn’t taken into account you might find yourself sitting on the side of the road wishing you had taken the time to warm her up.

Time taken to connect with your wife or girlfriend will pay a hefty dividend in the end in more ways than one. So, how do you create a strong connection with your partner?

Talking – Time spent talking, or more specifically listening to your wife or girlfriend, will help the two of you to connect. Just a little tip but… women don’t always want you to fix their problems. Understanding and communication will help bring the two of you together and connect on this level. In addition to laying the groundwork for some successful seduction, you will find that your relationship is more healthy overall if you make an effort to spend some alone time talking with your wife or girlfriend.

Touching – Although you might think that touching is a given if you are hoping to seduce your wife or girlfriend, I am talking about a whole different kind of touching. This might take some time and effort for some guys to get in the habit of doing but again, you will find that your relationship in general and the connection with your wife or girlfriend will improve if you simply touch her from time to time. Laying your hand on hers when you’re driving… holding her hand in public… laying your hand on her back or touching her each time you are near her, even briefly, will make a profound impact on her. The connection that a simple touch creates is utter magic to a woman and you might even feel it yourself.

Compliments – Although you might think that she knows that you think that she’s beautiful, or that you are thankful for all the little things she does for you, the truth is that she still wants to hear the words come from your mouth. Try not to overdo it but one or two compliments a day can literally bring joy into a woman’s heart. Telling her that you love her and why will completely bowl her over so…try it sometime! Tell her that you love her and that you love the way she looks first thing in the morning; all sleepy, or tell her that you love when she looks at you with that twinkle in her eye. Make her day! After all, she is the woman that you love, right?

Follow this advice and you will be well on your way to creating a real connection with your wife or girlfriend and laying the foundation for true seduction and becoming the type of man that she brags about to all her girlfriends.

The security of a relationship can be wonderful. Knowing that you have a man that loves you and the companionship of someone that you enjoy spending time with is unequalled. But you may find that the routine of a relationship can almost feel like a rut sometimes and the breakneck speed at which many of us run our lives often leave little time for intimacy in a relationship. It is nobody’s fault that your sex life might have fallen into a rut also.

Would you like to spice things up a little bit? Would you like to experience the same passion that was there at the beginning of your relationship? Or perhaps you’d just like to become skilled in “seduction” and be able to blow your man’s mind from time to time? After all, there’s no better way to keep a man interested than being skilled at the art of seduction.

You may already know that men are, for the most part, visually stimulated. But what many women don’t know is that men can be aroused to the point of near idiocy in many different ways. True seduction is about tormenting a man in exactly this way by using many different mediums over a period of time until he simply can’t stand it any longer. Once you plant that seed of seduction in his mind it will stay there. He will be constantly thinking about it until he simply can’t stand it any longer. The longer you make him wait and the more you “tease” him and flirt with him the more he will want you. Try a couple of these tricks to seduce him and find out what kind of reaction you can get out of him.

Go Commando – The next time you are planning on going out for dinner try this little seduction trick and see what kind of response you get. A short skirt is preferable but not too short. Your goal is to excite your boyfriend or husband; not to give anatomy lessons to small children.

“Accidentally” forget an article of clothing, namely your underwear. Feel free to dress a little seductively in addition but not too over the top. Maybe a top that shows off your cleavage a little bit but nothing too far out of the ordinary.

As you are eating, if you notice him looking at your cleavage you can ask him if he is likes what he sees. Then slowly and seductively lean over the table and tell him that, oh… you just realized… you were so silly….you forgot….to wear…any underwear. Feel free to really act it out and flirt with him across the table. Chances are that if you were planning on going to a movie after dinner those plans will change.

Sexy Pictures – As we already stated, men are visually stimulated. This is why strip clubs and internet porn is such a huge business and such a big temptation for men, even men in relationships. But what if he had no reason to look at internet porn? What if he had visually stimulating pictures of you to look at whenever he wanted?

Boudoir photography is great if you can afford it. For those working within a budget a digital camera and some lingerie is all you will need. Most cameras have a timer so you can set the camera up, set the timer and strike a pose all by yourself.

Once you have a dozen or so pictures that you like you can start feeding him a daily diet of a picture a day sent to him via email while he is at work. Just a simple subject line asking him “does this make me look fat?” with the picture attached and signed “XXX … there’s more where this came from…” should be enough to drive him to distraction before the day is out.

Dance Like A Stripper – Many men go to strip clubs on a weekly basis and spend untold hundreds of dollars to watch a woman dance seductively. Why couldn’t you be that woman for him? Belly Dancing and Strippercise classes are popping up all over the place these days and there is a very good chance that your interest in such a class would be encouraged and supported by your husband or boyfriend. After all, after class you could show him what you learned and he would never have to feel guilty about watching a stripper dance for him again… because that stripper would be you.

Additionally, these classes are a great workout and you will walk away with a whole new respect for women that do this sort of thing for a living. But simply put, learning how to dance seductively like a stripper will probably completely short circuit his brain and give you a tremendous amount of leverage and power in your relationship. You might be amazed by how attentive he becomes and how quickly household chores get done without you even having to ask anymore.

Try some of these tips and experience the power that seduction can have in your relationship. Say goodbye to the days of ho-hum sex and bring some fun and excitement into your nights. Seduction is an art and it’s not just about the things you do, it’s how you do them. We just want to teach you how to do them seductively.

You may have a burning desire to talk things through with your ex… you might think that if you could get them to sit down and discuss the problems in your relationship you might be able to convince them not to end the relationship. You might think that the easiest way to get them back might be to sit down and calmly discuss their grievances and once you have overcome all their objections they will happily come running back to you.

Please don’t kid yourself for a minute by thinking that talking things through will ever work. Chances are that even offers to attend counseling on your own or together are probably going to fall on deaf ears. Chances are that if your relationship was on a downhill slide for a while an offer to discuss any problems or attend counseling will appear to be a last ditch effort to manipulate your ex into getting back together.

This is not to say that counseling doesn’t have its place in a relationship. Counseling can be a very powerful and effective tool to help cement your relationship once both you and your partner have decided that getting back together is what you both desire. A counselor can be an impartial referee that can point out areas that both of you might wish to work on separately and together to help enhance your relationship.

As far as wanting to sit down with your ex and discuss what went wrong in the relationship, for the moment, nothing good can come of this. Any desire that you might say you have for “closure” or some sort of understanding of what went wrong stands little chance of being helpful to you. Haven’t you been hurt enough as it is? Why subject yourself to further rejection? Why do you want to know in detail why this person who loved you so much at one time now desires to be apart from you? Spare yourself the pain, retain your dignity and leave that discussion for another day.

Now is the time for you to rebuild yourself and heal from the wounds that you have suffered at the hands of your ex. Yes, it may be helpful at some point to take an inventory of yourself and see if there is any truth in the accusations that your ex has hurled at you. See if your ex has indeed pointed out any areas that you also feel are unacceptable in your life and set about to make some changes if you feel that YOU might benefit in the long run.

Again, there is nothing wrong with visiting a counselor if that is the route that you wish to take. But your first order of business before inviting them along or discussing “what’s wrong with you” should be to set about formulating a game plan to win them back.

The difference between success and failure… between “happily ever after” and getting your ex back or hearing from a friend that your ex is engaged can be summed up in one word. That word is “patience”.

Each day may seem like an eternity and every morning waking up knowing that your ex is your “ex” can feel like torture. Trying to go about your life can be a struggle but what you are in store for may be a marathon and not a sprint. This is why patience plays such a key role in winning back the heart of your partner.

Just like any wonderful thing in life, waiting for everything to work out may require a tremendous amount of patience. The finish line may be just over the next hill or it may be several miles away. By patiently waiting and working your plan every day you will find that before you know it the day will be here when your ex is back in your life and in retrospect, you will find that the wait wasn’t really all that long. So, how can you practice patience in dealing with the deafening silence coming from your ex?

Daydream – Allow yourself to daydream a little bit every day. Imagine what it will be like when you are together again. Where will you go and what will you do? In what ways do you want things to be different? Can you think of things that you wished you had done together that once you have the opportunity you will do? Will you spend more time making up than arguing? Will you let go of little grudges that you held onto? Let your mind wander and allow yourself to daydream a little bit every day about how things will be once he does come back to you and you are together again.

Keeping a positive attitude about the future of your relationship can have an extremely helpful effect upon not only your own happiness but also the actual events that will eventually bring you back together. There are people who believe this wholeheartedly and use “The Power of Attraction” and Manifestation to bring anything that they desire into their lives. Why wouldn’t it work with love and with your relationship?

Wrap Your Present – You are a gift, my dear! Not too long ago your ex told you and showed you how much he loved you. You were his gift and someone very precious to him. There will come a day when he will want his gift back again. Why not spruce up that gift and make sure that it looks splendid when that day finally does come? Don’t you want to look and BE even more wonderful than he remembered the next time he sees you?

Spend some time caring for yourself; pampering yourself and caring for that special someone that he used to adore… and will adore again. Maybe you want to make some changes in your life? Perhaps a new hair style or some new clothes might be in order? Maybe you have been saying that you want to start working out or take a yoga class?

Enjoy this time alone and take advantage of it to really focus on what you want your life to be like with your partner. Care for yourself and treat yourself like the precious gift that you really are. Patiently wait for your time in the sun again and before you know it that day will be here.

Falling in love is easy and when you and your partner first fell in love chances are it was almost effortless. Think back to those early days when the two of you were carefree and filled with joy. You may not think that it would be that easy to get your boyfriend or husband back again but it really might be if you can avoid many of the common and almost deadly mistakes that most women make after a breakup.

If you are serious about getting back together with your ex though, it might be best to think before you act. Much of this advice may go against what your instincts are telling you but here are three of the most common relationship killers and the reasons why they are poison to your ex’s affection.

Contact – It might be very tempting to call your ex, text him, email him or even want to stop by his home to check on him or talk with him. You might be curious about what he’s up to or if he might have changed his mind. You might worry that he will forget that you still love him or that you still want him back.

Your instinct to reach out to him is a trap that you should avoid at all costs. He has dumped you. Let him be the one to initiate contact. He is probably a smart fellow and he can come up with some sort of excuse to call you. And if you really are afraid that he doesn’t know if you still love him or not… Let him wonder. Give him the time and space to miss you and wonder what YOU are doing and whether or not you still think of him and love him instead.

Talking – Even though you might feel that you two can work things out and come to some sort of an agreement after talking through your differences, this is secondary to actually making the commitment to be back together again. This desire to talk is only a thinly veiled attempt to change his mind or convince him that he has made a mistake in dumping you and that you should get back together. All of this may be true but any attempt to change his mind is only going to be met with resistance and will hurt you in the long run.

Until he has that heartfelt desire to be with you again any talk about what went wrong or why he made the decision to end the relationship is a moot point. There is no sense in dredging up the past and airing your dirty laundry unless something positive will come of it in the long run. Once he comes back to you, and he WILL come back to you, then it is time to talk about how you will handle conflict and problems when they arise. Honestly though, once the love has returned to your relationship you will find that you won’t want to talk of these things for a long time. You will be too busy being in LOVE again!

Promising – Making a laundry list of things that you promise never to do again based upon your ex’s reasons why he chose to leave may seem like a great idea. After all, if you promise never to do any of the things that he said that caused him to leave then there will be no reason for him to ever leave again, right?

Promising borders on begging and taking such a stance only makes you appear weak and needy. When you fell in love initially you both accepted each other as you were. There is even a chance that some of the things that he complained about in the end where traits that he thought were cute or endearing. If you ever stand a chance of getting him back again you are going to be strong and accept yourself the way you are… and he should and will too.

Of course, if there are some glaring character faults that you feel that you need to clean up for your own good then by all means do so. Chemical dependency, extreme jealousy, insecurity, controlling and manipulative behavior can be quite harmful to a healthy relationship but easy taken care of in any and all cases. Do these things for yourself though so you yourself can be happy because you deserve to be happy first and foremost.

Take some time and go over these treacherous pitfalls that so many women fall into when trying to get their ex back. If you are tempted to follow your instincts and try to convince yourself that they are the right thing to do, read this over again. With a little help you are going to get him back and in the end you will be a happier, stronger woman with her self esteem intact.

Are you desperate to get your ex back? Are you longing to be in his loving arms again and know the peace of knowing that his heart is yours once again? Are you willing to go to any length to get him back? Perhaps you have thought of going “Black Ops” on him and using male psychology against him but deep down inside you aren’t quite sure if this is the route for you?

The truth is that women have been using male psychology and psychological tricks since the dawn of time to get men to do everything from taking out the trash to waging war. Male psychology is used to sell everything from cars to beer to hair dye. Have you ever heard the term “sex sells”? Although advertising is a bit of a different ballgame, you get the idea.

The fact is that men, in general, are very simplistic creatures and can be easily manipulated by using sex appeal and psychology. The psychological buttons that are pressed when using sexuality in all of its forms, both blatant and the more discreet forms basically disconnect a guy’s brain from his body and a man’s emotions override logic. A pretty woman with a flat tire will cause a guy to traverse six lanes of traffic so he can change the tire for her in a suit while making himself a half hour late for work in some cases.

In it’s more mild uses male psychology can get a man to open pickle jars, pick up heavy objects and saddle him with the most mundane and unpleasant tasks. If you have any doubts ask your own mother if she ever does anything special to get your father to do things around the house. Chances are she will have a few funny stories and a couple of pointers for you.

One aspect of using so called “underhanded tactics” to get your ex back that might be causing you to hesitate is the question of whether or not you will be found out. Will he figure out what you’re doing and could this kill any chance of ever getting back together with him? This is one of the most ingenious parts of using a psychologically based plan to win him back. The part of the brain that we are dealing with is such an instinctual part of a man’s being that even if he did figure out that you were intentionally messing with his mind he would still be helpless to do anything other than react to the stimulus.

So, no…even if he did become wise to what was going on it wouldn’t matter. But normally the emotions and thoughts that are going through his head won’t allow him to do much else other than put everything he has into getting back where he belongs which is with you. It is very similar to the reaction that a body goes through when hit with a tazer. No matter how much he might wish to stop convulsing and no matter how much he might want to run away, his body simply won’t let him. You will be dealing with the part of the brain that tells his body to breathe in and out… the part of his brain that is responsible for the “knee jerk reaction”… the same part of the brain that causes him to pull his hand away when he touches something hot. There is no logical thought process that goes on and it is all instinct and a part of his brain that is hard wired to react in a certain predictable way to a certain stimulus.

The question still remains though of whether it is ethical and ok for you to use male psychology to get your ex back. Do you feel as if this course might give you an unfair advantage or make you feel as if you aren’t playing by the rules? The effectiveness has been proven and history has shown that this is nothing new in the area of human relations. The choice is yours to make based upon how much you really want to get him back and to what degree you want to use male psychology to bring about that end. The tools are there if you want to use them and ultimately the choice is up to you.

The pain and anguish of a breakup can easily be one of the most debilitating events in a person’s life. The amount of pain and loneliness that you are feeling right now is relative to the intensity and depth of love that you feel for your partner. This means that if you didn’t really care about your partner you could easily go on with your life and the breakup wouldn’t be having much of an effect upon you or your life at all right now.

Unfortunately, you do care about your partner. You love them with all your heart and right now you are feeling as if you have lost an actual piece of your own body. They were probably your best friend at one point and a daily part of your existence. But now they’re gone. It is only logical that you should want that love restored and that piece of your heart back. As strange as this is going to sound, happiness is a key factor in getting your ex back and winning their heart again for all time.

You are probably saying that you can’t be happy these days. You might be telling yourself that you will only be happy once you get your ex back. This type of thinking has to stop since it is not going to help your cause at all and if your ex sees you in this state it will only help to confirm that they probably made the right choice in leaving you. After all, who wants to be around someone that is sad and depressed all the time?

Someone that is happy, funny, positive and fun to be around will always win out in the end over someone that is sad or depressed. So, when the time comes that you bump into your ex again or when they call you on the phone, do you want to be sad and depressed or do you want to be happy and positive? You want to be happy and positive, right? Ok, let’s get you there and quick!

Fake It Til You Make It – This is an old saying but the theory is solid. Until you are truly happy inside in every way work at being happy on the outside. Lie to yourself. Tell yourself and anyone that asks you that you’re doing great and that today is going to be a great day. The future holds great things for you and, honestly, your chances of getting your ex back are a lot better than you might believe. Get in the habit of smiling again and having fun. Joke with your coworkers and get back to being that fun person that everyone has missed so much even if you have to fake it until you make it.

Put A Positive Spin On It – This is a neat little trick that you can use in any and every aspect of your life from here on out. It is a technique that is not only effective but also quite easy to implement. No matter how dire circumstances may seem at the moment it is easy to put a positive spin on things if you know how. Think of what positive things might come out of your breakup and how everything might turn out in your favor in the end.

Perhaps after a little time has passed your ex will come to realize that you really weren’t that terrible after all? Maybe once you get back together they will appreciate you a little more and treat you even better than they did before you broke up? If it wasn’t for the breakup the two of you could have gone through life taking each other for granted. Don’t you think that your ex might be missing you at times too?

Try to put a positive spin on all of this and if nothing else each day is one day closer to the day when you hold your ex in your loving arms again.

Do Things That Will Make You Happy – On a regular basis you should be doing things that will make you happy and cause you to smile and laugh. Watch a few funny movies that will make you laugh and use the healing benefits of laughter to mend your broken heart. Get out of the house and visit a local comedy club. Most clubs have a low cover charge so you will reap the benefits of getting out of the house and being entertained in a very positive way that will lift your spirits.

Money may not buy happiness but it can buy you a gift that will bring some happiness to your life even for a short period of time. Shopping can make you feel better about yourself and buying yourself a present is a nice way to reward yourself for taking this positive step towards healing your broken heart and building the foundation upon which your new relationship with your ex might stand the test of time.

Take this advice to heart and work on becoming a happier and more positive person again and you will stand a better chance of winning your ex back. With a little time spent reflecting upon these aspects of your life you will find that your life in general will be easier to live until that day comes when you and your partner are together again. Just remember, a happy, fun loving, positive person is more loveable than someone who is sad all the time.